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December 21, 2013 294 Comments

Fourteen Things You Shouldn’t Say to Your Pastor

The list is meant to be both humorous and serious. And I bet almost every pastor has heard all of these in the course of a ministry. Enjoy. But do not repeat (at least to your pastor).

  1. I wish I had a job like yours, where I would work only one day a week.
  2. What do you do with all the free time you have?
  3. Can I have a couple of minutes before you preach?
  4. I love you pastor, but _______________________________ (fill in the blank).
  5. I like your preaching, pastor, but I really like ____________________________ (fill in the blank with television or podcast preacher).
  6. Can your wife play piano?
  7. Your kids shouldn’t behave that way. After all, they are pastor’s kids.
  8. Your low salary is good for you. It keeps you humble and dependent on the Lord.
  9. I bet you don’t spend any time preparing your sermons.
  10. Pastor ________________ (predecessor pastor) didn’t do it that way.
  11. You don’t have a real degree. You went to seminary.
  12. How much longer do you think you’ll be at our church?
  13. Did I wake you up pastor? It’s only 1:00 am.
  14. Did you hear what they are saying about you?

Do you have any statements or questions to add to this list? How many of you have heard these statements before?

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  1. Dan Edwards says

    December 21, 2013 at 7:28 am

    I couldn’t help but laugh at your #1 post (1.I wish I had a job like yours, where I would work only one day a week).
    In 2001, I was discerning the call to ministry and still working in the banking industry. I worked from home with the bank. My neighbors grandson (9 years old at the time)would come over quite often and I’d take time out to go outside to play basketball with him.
    One day we were shooting hoops when he suddenly stopped dribbling and stood looking at me.
    He asked me, “Are you a preacher?” I replied, “No, what makes you think I’m a preacher?” His innocent remark was, “Because you’re always at home and never work!”

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    • Thom Rainer says

      December 21, 2013 at 7:32 am

      Now that’s funny.

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      • Dana says

        December 21, 2013 at 11:29 pm

        How about “shouldn’t we be meeting on Saturday?” Or how about: “if Jesus was Hebrew why do we call him by his Greek nick name?”

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        • Sal says

          December 23, 2013 at 7:11 am

          The New Testament was written in the Greek that’s why he is called Jesus because he will save his people from their sins,for meeting on Saturday and not Sunday you are probably thinking about the (Sabbath) that was for Israel you can read this in Deut.5:15,to ask a Christian to keep the sabbath holy would be like asking China to celebrate the 4th of July for the same reason that we do.

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          • Arenita says

            December 23, 2013 at 11:48 am

            Actually keeping the sabbath is a commandment and the commandments are for eveyone and are still relevant to this day.

          • Jeremy says

            December 24, 2013 at 7:52 am

            Pretty smooth how you turned this humorous post into a Sabbath debate. I mean why enjoy a good chuckle when there are plenty of things to argue about! 😉

          • Ruth says

            December 24, 2013 at 11:06 am

            Wow! Is that an incredibly inaccurate analogy. If you want to throw out the Old Testament & anything inconvenient to your beliefs, fine, but at least be honest in doing so… http://www.tomorrowsworld.org/magazines/2008/jan-feb/should-christians-keep-the-sabbath

          • Kevin says

            January 22, 2014 at 1:29 pm

            So if Christians do not keep the 4th commandment they do not need to keep the 1st one either? God himself said I have set this day apart; keep the Sabbath day holy

          • Pastor Jim says

            October 7, 2015 at 4:20 pm

            Sal– The Sabbath was given in Genesis 2:1-3 before a Jew or Israelite existed, so even if there were no commandments God Himself set it up at creation. Also it is given in the ten commandments which Christ said that he had not come to destroy, and that those who love Him, not just the Jews, would obey. Exodus 20:7-11; Deuteronomy 5:12-15; Matthew 4:17; John 14:15 Would you also argue that commandments prohibiting adultery and murder were also “only for the Jews”? Then why would you remove the only one of the ten commandments that God specifically says to Remember? Exodus 20:7

        • Shellie Freeman says

          December 24, 2013 at 12:18 am

          This question about meeting on Saturday is a good one! Why not ask your pastor about that?

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          • Matt A says

            December 24, 2013 at 9:06 am

            Ask him right before his sermon tonight.

          • Joe says

            September 29, 2014 at 2:41 pm

            The Sabbath fans posting here aren’t interested in asking a doctrinally-sound Pastor about it – as far as they’re concerned, their beloved “Prophetess” Ellen White settled it for them.

            They need to drop that woman like the rock that hit her on her head, get saved, and trade those Grape Nuts in for a BBQ Pork sandwich (thick sliced, inside cut).

          • Pastor Jim says

            October 7, 2015 at 3:25 pm

            Joe- What determines doctrinally sound is that the teaching is Biblically sound. And what determines a Christian spirit is treating someone who disagrees with respect, which you have not. Belittling is not a Christian spirit.

            To prove you are even close to basing your Sunday doctrine on the Bible, share a single text where God clearly commands the change of the observance of the seventh-day, Saturday that He set aside as Sabbath to Sunday the first day of the week.

            Here are a few texts that show that the Seventh-Day Sabbath is valid, commanded by God, for Jew and Greek alike, Jesus kept, disciples kept, God said he didn’t come to change it. And the Seventh-day Sabbath is used as a sign of divine rest of Salvation- Genesis 2:1-3, Exodus 20:8-11, Deuteronomy 5:12-14, Isaiah 56:1-8, Isaiah 58:13-14, Isaiah 66:23, Ezekiel 20:12-20, Matthew 28:1, Matthew 5:17-19, Luke 4:16, Luke 23:56, Matthew 24:20, Leviticus 23:32, Acts 17:2, Revelation 14:7 & 12, Acts 15:19-20, Mark 16:1, Acts 13:42, John 14:15, Hebrews 4:1-16

            Note: not one quote or reference to Ellen White.

      • Chris Surber says

        December 22, 2013 at 7:19 am

        too funny… 😉

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        • Marlene says

          December 23, 2013 at 7:35 am

          Yes I agree with you in some respects. The New testament was written in Greek, by Hebrew-thinking Jews. We have lived in Israel for almost 5 years and in Greece for 3. What struck us in Greece was that they called their days of the week the same as they do in Israel, except for Friday which is Paraskevi – which translated means “Day of Preparation” – preparing for what? Saturday is called Sabbato – the “b” is pronounced “v” in Greek. and Sunday is called Kyriaki which means “The Lord” or day of the Lord. After living in Israel and experiencing their Shabbats on Saturday, after spending Friday preparing for the Sabbath. We realized that the early church, being mostly Jews and Greeks in Greece, kept those traditions and celebrated the Lord on Sunday – after all Sabbath is only for rest.

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          • Bob Burke says

            December 23, 2013 at 5:12 pm

            Actually, there is not a single historical account of anyone keeping Sunday before the second century. The reality is that ALL of the members of the early church kept the Sabbath as a day of worship and it was gradually changed without any Scriptural support whatsoever. The Sabbath is for man, not just the Jews. If you want to keep Sunday go right ahead, just don’t try and say there is some Bible text that changed the day, because there isn’t.

          • Ken says

            December 26, 2013 at 6:42 am

            Bob Burke is incorrect. The New Testament does indeed speak of Christians gathering together on “the first day of the week”. Furthermore, all four gospels emphasize that Jesus rose from the dead – not just on “the third day” following His crucifixion – but on “the first day of the week”. There was a reason for that. The earliest Christians were Jews, and very likely worshiped on both Saturday and Sunday. As the gospel spread among Gentiles, Sunday became the new day of worship. For that matter, if you concede that Christians were worshiping on Sunday in the second century, then that alone destroys the myth that Constantine changed the Sabbath.

            Mind you, I hardly consider Saturday worship the unpardonable sin. If a church chooses to worship that day, that’s their business. Still, I think it’s downright silly to argue – as Seventh-Day Adventists do – that Jesus refuses to return until Christians start worshiping on Saturday.

          • Pastor Jim says

            October 7, 2015 at 2:56 pm

            Ken in response to your points.
            1. While the Bible does mention Christians gathering together on the first day of the week, it does not say that they gathered on that day replacing the commanded Seventh-day Sabbath. My gathering together on Wednesday for a mid week service doesn’t negate the day of worship God established. Exodus 20:8.

            2. I would agree with you that the four Gospels emphasize the resurrection but no place in those Gospels does it tell us to change the day of worship to Sunday in honor of the resurrection. The disciples didn’t think that anything Jesus said had changed the day of Sabbath. Luke 23:56 “And they returned and prepared spics and perfumes and on the Sabbath day they rested according to the commandment.” That was Saturday the day before the first day that Jesus Rested.

            3. The issue is not whether people followed the commandment of God or not, we witness all through the Old Testament that the Jews missed following God’s commandments. That didn’t negate those commandments. Also we find that the disciples continued to keep Saturday the seventh- day Sabbath after the resurrection, it is even noted that it was Paul’s custom. (Acts 17:2) Maybe he kept it because it was also Jesus custom to keep the Sabbath day. (Luke 4:16)

            4. Where is the historical evidence that the Jews in Jesus time worshiped on Sunday. That is not Biblical. (Luke 23)

            5. The Seventh-day Adventist denomination does not teach that “Jesus refuses to return until Christians start worshiping on Sabbath.”

            6. A church’s decision to worship on either Sunday or Saturday doesn’t change which day God commanded us to worship. It is not only in the 10 commandments ( Deut 5:12-15; it is also at creation that God established the day as his. Genesis 2:1-3)

            If you are interested in a real Biblical study about the Sabbath day in the bible feel free to email me at pstjim@gmail.com

          • Pastor Jim says

            October 7, 2015 at 4:01 pm

            Marlene, Your appeal is to modern language to show that the Sunday was the Lord’s day in Jesus time is not applicable. “Sunday” does not appear in the Biblical text in the Greek language instead the phrase, “The first day of the week”. That reference in the Greek language does not list it as the Lord’s Day. The Greek application is currently after the day has been changed and yes many now refer to Sunday as the Lord’s day. In fact you admit that the Sabbath day is still identified in the Greek as Saturday the seventh-day of the week in modern Greek, as is true with 108 different languages including Spanish and Hebrew.

            Biblically, God however identifies the Sabbath as His day. Isaiah 58:13-14, Exodus 20:10, Mark 2:28 not Sunday

      • Sam says

        December 23, 2013 at 7:03 am

        The best answer I’ve heard is, “Yeah, and Olympic sprinters only work for 10 seconds every four years.”

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      • Ronnie Naidoo (Pastor) says

        January 9, 2014 at 12:51 am

        Hi Thom

        Who got the idea we work one day a week.
        In fact we actually work 2 hours only on a Sunday morning.
        In fact if one has to be really technical, we work 30 minutes only when we preach our weekly message.
        Thanks for your “14 Things …”
        Blessings
        Ronnie Naidoo (South Africa)

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    • Jay Lafontaine says

      December 21, 2013 at 2:58 pm

      Pastor.. Did you sleep in those pants last night?

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    • Jeff Davis says

      December 21, 2013 at 11:41 pm

      Pastor where did you get the money to go on vacation? We pay you and we didn’t give you the money to go on vacation.

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      • WesleyRexrode says

        December 24, 2013 at 7:32 am

        Amen! And after you do squirrel away enough money to go on vacation, their immediate reply is that they must be paying you to much.

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    • James Wright says

      December 22, 2013 at 5:27 am

      Is that another new car you are driving?

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      • Donna says

        April 10, 2014 at 6:57 am

        LOVE this! lol

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    • JIM MCCANN says

      December 22, 2013 at 4:21 pm

      I hear this a lot!OH Pastor i just came by to kill some time!!(so they come by to kill mine)

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    • DOUG NORCLIFFE says

      December 22, 2013 at 5:49 pm

      i don’t have an add on but i do have a concerning quest.
      often i would be in a real bind and still am as a new CHRISTIAN;I FEEL GUILTY TO EVEN ASK OF THE PASTORS TIME DUE TO HIS DEMANDS. WHAT WOULD YOU SUGGEST AS FAR AS PROPER PROTOCOL?

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      • Ralph Juthman says

        December 22, 2013 at 6:11 pm

        Doug , no pastor would turn down time to invest in a new Christian. Let me suggest you either email, or call you pastors office and suggest a time to take him out for coffee, and if possible thirty minutes to ask some questions

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      • John Compton says

        December 23, 2013 at 12:02 am

        Doug, I would ask for a recommendation of a man in the church you can have a regular relationship with. You are supposed to be discipled, which means regular time. Ask the Lord if there is someone you should ask. I didn’t know how to find someone to help me. Also, there are a lot of ministries that specialize in materials and teaching on line and one the air, but they cannot put a real live person in your life. Only God can do that. If you want to go deeper right now I recommend LOTE.org.

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        • Bea says

          December 23, 2013 at 1:24 pm

          How aabout checking for a mature Christian in the church he attends?

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        • DOUG NORCLIFFE says

          December 23, 2013 at 6:35 pm

          wow, thank you very much John, i ‘ve been waitin, MAY GOD BLESS YOU AND A VERY HAPPY CHRISTMAS TO ALL!!!

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      • Jason says

        December 31, 2013 at 11:55 am

        Pastors look for faithful, available, and teachable people to invest in. Otherwise we feel like we’re spinning our wheels going no where from a person who doesn’t really want to grow or learn. Develop those in your life and ask for help. We would rather spend our time with people who want to grow and serve others than prideful people who know everything and are too busy to serve others.

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      • robert humphrey says

        January 3, 2014 at 9:47 am

        Just happened to read Amy’s post. she is so cool and I had the privilege of knowing her for several years. the post are great and personally, I long for men to come to me and want to learn more. Here is the issue with that is God is moving in a revial in that questioning person and who would not want to be a part of that? Revial starts when people get hungry. Don’t stop being hungry as God is moving. If you pastor does not want to build a relationship with you, then find and even if he does, find men who are solid in the faith and look for that kind of mentor. I had a 75 year old pastor take me under his wing in my first years of seeking and then I had a pastor 20 years my younger do the same. both were important to my growth. Mentoring is important to discipleship. Be Blessed

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      • Rev. John M. Sweigart says

        January 5, 2014 at 2:45 pm

        Make an appointment.

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    • DOUG NORCLIFFE says

      December 22, 2013 at 6:01 pm

      i don’t have an add on but i do have a concerning quest.
      often i would be in a real bind and still am as a new CHRISTIAN;I FEEL GUILTY TO EVEN ASK OF THE PASTORS TIME DUE TO HIS DEMANDS. WHAT WOULD YOU SUGGEST AS FAR AS PROPER PROTOCOL?

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      • John Sears says

        December 27, 2013 at 11:47 am

        Doug:

        To me, any time but on Sunday morning before I have delivered my message is almost always okay. If you are making a phone call to ask a question, follow proper phone etiquette. Don’t call after 9:00 PM (unless it is a life and death emergency.)

        Avoid the above times and ask, “I have a question…is this a good time?” and you should be good to go.

        I want you to know that it is rarely a “bother” to me to answer a members questions at any other time. I imagine most pastors feel the same way. My door is almost always open. (And If it’s not a very good time to ask, I will honestly tell you or the secretary will tell you and we can schedule a better time.)

        I hope this helps.

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    • Scott says

      December 24, 2013 at 8:22 am

      How about: “Pastor, do you need some money to buy your wife a new dress?”

      I sat in a board meeting where we (the church board, basically elders/trustees) were discussing improving our pastors’ overall compensation packages. I was one of those in favor of significant positive adjustments, as they were currently being compensated two standard deviations below the mean compared to pastors with equivalent education, experience, congregation size, etc.
      One of the board members asked, “Why do they need a raise?”
      I answered, “What if he just wants to be able to buy his wife a nice dress?”
      He literally said, “If the pastor’s wife needs a new dress, he can bring that to the board and we can have the congregation take up an offering.”

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      • Chet says

        January 3, 2014 at 8:21 pm

        Take up an offering for a new dress. Wow. Just….wow.

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    • Jeremy Sanders says

      December 24, 2013 at 11:13 am

      Why is that my life now, lol

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    • Carlos Miller Jr. says

      December 27, 2013 at 4:35 am

      I laughed more at your comment than the original post.

      Reply
  2. Allen Calkins says

    December 21, 2013 at 7:37 am

    I would add two:
    15. You are so much better than when I first heard you preach.
    16. I know it’s your day off but………..

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    • Thom Rainer says

      December 21, 2013 at 7:39 am

      Excellent!

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    • Richard Wardman says

      December 21, 2013 at 1:43 pm

      I heard #15 incessantly when I was still in training as an assistant pastor. I haven’t heard it once since I became the pastor of the church I’m at now.

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    • Charles Mims says

      December 21, 2013 at 4:01 pm

      Hear #16 all the time!

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      • TJ says

        December 21, 2013 at 6:44 pm

        Yep, almost every week.

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    • clark says

      December 22, 2013 at 4:37 pm

      your #15 is funny but better than the opposite.

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    • Bob Burke says

      December 23, 2013 at 5:15 pm

      16. I know it’s your day off but………..
      Day off? HAHAHAHA, that’s funny!

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  3. steve pryor says

    December 21, 2013 at 7:37 am

    Every sermon you give is better than the next:)
    Seriously, great list,

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    • Thom Rainer says

      December 21, 2013 at 7:42 am

      I’m slow, but I got it!

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  4. Ralph Juthman says

    December 21, 2013 at 7:39 am

    If you had been praying, God would have told you I was in the hospital

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    • Thom Rainer says

      December 21, 2013 at 7:44 am

      Ah, the spiritual gift of omniscience!

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    • Marcus Brown says

      December 24, 2013 at 6:00 pm

      Ralph, that’s funny, i have members who won’t have anyone call me to tell me that they are IN the hospital until they are OUT of the hospital. ‘Why didn’t you come and see me.’ I am bi-vocational because the church can’t really allow me to live the gospel. I’m the road 4 days a week and out of those days I’m out of town all of the time. I have to spend the night in a hotel once a week. I have no off days whatsover and they want to know why I didn’t come and see them! Two things ‘I don’t have a ‘S’ on my chest and a red cape on my back, in addition I do not have E.S.P. CALL SOMEBODY!!! SHEEP…GOTTA LUV UM’!!! AND I DO LUV THEM!!!

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  5. Allen Baker says

    December 21, 2013 at 7:53 am

    My personal favorite is, “we did that before you came and it didn’t work!”(so we don’t need to do it again!). I have heard them all, but my best one was, “Why are we having all these baptisms?” I truly lost it, and that was from a Deacon. “Oh, the good old days. Love ya brother

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    • Thom Rainer says

      December 21, 2013 at 7:56 am

      Wow. Almost speechless.

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    • Trevor DeVage says

      December 21, 2013 at 8:33 am

      I just heard the baptism one. It went a little more like this for me though, “Can we talk about something other than the lost and those being baptized?” Left me speechless too. 🙂

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      • Thom Rainer says

        December 21, 2013 at 9:19 am

        I would be speechless too.

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      • Matt says

        December 21, 2013 at 1:36 pm

        I wish I could stay speechless with someone complaining about too many baptisms or too much talk about baptisms or the lost. Unfortunately, I would probably tell them what I thought. By the grace of God I coupled probably be nice about it, but no promises.

        Matt N.

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    • Lynn says

      December 21, 2013 at 11:33 am

      I wish I had a job like you all you do is preach, 2 times a week, and go out to eat, This is a true story, I told my pastor(who was like my dad) I want to be a pastor or a minister or preacher, And he said do you feel called to preach? And I said MAYBE, And he said you better make sure. It is hard. And I said how hard can it be you preach 2 times a day, and you go out to eat, the rest, Oh my Lordy. He laughed, And I seen his like first hand, and it was far from the truth. It is one hard job.

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    • Mike Miller says

      December 21, 2013 at 6:12 pm

      I actually had a lady (in a former church) say to me, “You sure are wasting a lot of water with all those people you’ve been baptizing.” One of the few times in my life I’ve been speechless.

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    • Simeon Spencer says

      December 22, 2013 at 6:10 am

      Akin to the remark about baptisms someone commented to me once that while our church was growing, the people coming into the fellowship were not “quality” people. They weren’t bringing “much” with them. I was floored.

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      • James Blackwood says

        December 24, 2013 at 7:55 am

        I had a comment from an elderly lady similar to that, her remark was that “it takes money to run a church; and those people do not have money”.

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      • Prophetess sharondaturner says

        January 7, 2014 at 2:18 am

        Lol this is to funny…..

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    • clark says

      December 22, 2013 at 4:41 pm

      I did get, “we did that before and it didn’t work” in response to setting up home groups

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  6. Allen Baker says

    December 21, 2013 at 7:58 am

    My personal favorite is, “we did that before you came and it didn’t work!”(so we don’t need to do it again!). I have heard them all, but my best one was, “Why are we having all these baptisms?” I truly lost it, and that was from a Deacon. “Oh, the good old days. Love ya brother.
    Oh, I’ve got one more, “preacher, when you tell a joke in the pulpit, you cause the spirit of God to leave.”

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    • Thom Rainer says

      December 21, 2013 at 9:41 am

      Humor has no place with a Christian. : )

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      • Thomas Malcom says

        December 21, 2013 at 4:45 pm

        Humor does have a place. When giving a serious presentation & it seems like some are not paying attention I interject a short joke. Half of the people laugh, there is quiet and the second half laugh. I then tell them, “For the second batch that laughed I told that joke so you would listen intently from now on so you will not miss an important word I have to say.” Whether giving a sermon or serious presentation it is important to know people are paying attention. My presentations were about c-diff bacteria, how it killed my wife and thousands of others, how to avoid it and how to treat it if you or someone you love gets it. A sermon is given to help people learn about living a Christian life that pleases Christ. One may save your life while living. The sermon is about saving your soul for eternity. Life is preparation for eternity. Live it as Christ wants you to.

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      • Sylvia Sanders says

        December 22, 2013 at 9:53 pm

        My 3rd cousin on my father’s side passed away I have actually never cared for him but the service is 200 miles away will you go? You don’t have to speak but I think it would be nice if my pastor attended.

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  7. Marty says

    December 21, 2013 at 8:02 am

    Funny and sad. I’m embarrassed to be a layman.

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    • Thom Rainer says

      December 21, 2013 at 8:15 am

      Don’t be Marty. The vast majority of laypersons love and support their pastors.

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  8. Bill says

    December 21, 2013 at 8:16 am

    I am confident that I have heard every single of those. Another one that I was not asked but told was, “Pastor, our constitution says ________.”

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    • Thom Rainer says

      December 21, 2013 at 8:17 am

      Yep.

      Reply
  9. Robert Warmath says

    December 21, 2013 at 8:18 am

    When a lady on the finance team wanted to cut my insurance email to sav
    e money, her senior mother said, “Why doesn’t he get a part time job; he has time?”

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    • Louise says

      December 22, 2013 at 12:07 am

      At his first church, my husband was asked to drive a school bus purely for the insurance. Later on, we saw the church financials (with a healthy reserve for paying for health insurance). Thankfully, my husband declined the request and later they paid on traditional insurance.

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  10. Robert Warmath says

    December 21, 2013 at 8:19 am

    When a lady on the finance team wanted to cut my insurance to save money, her senior mother said, “Why doesn’t he get a part time job; he has time?”

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    • Thom Rainer says

      December 21, 2013 at 8:21 am

      Ouch.

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      • Jim Clark says

        December 25, 2013 at 12:14 am

        Thom, our men’s group at church just walked thru your book “I am a church member”
        Great Stuff. People who make these statements should be handed a copy of your book. It may change their perspective.

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        • Thom Rainer says

          December 25, 2013 at 7:31 am

          Thank you Jim!

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  11. LaQuita says

    December 21, 2013 at 8:24 am

    Don’t talk about sin in the pulpit let the deacons deal with that. You just preach what we want to hear.

    I timed you. You preached past the allotted time.

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    • Thom Rainer says

      December 21, 2013 at 8:27 am

      Another ouch.

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    • Joe Rhoads says

      December 23, 2013 at 10:01 am

      I’ve heard that one, too. Deacons of the first church I served at told me about what time I should be wrapping up my sermon.
      Have you heard this one? I like to use supporting passages to prove an exegetical point, and if the passage if more than 2 or 3 verses, I like for the congregation to turn to that passage. I heard “You make us turn to too many Scripture verses.”

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    • Kelly Turney says

      December 24, 2013 at 8:18 am

      I used to have a guy set his watch alarm and when I went over (Which I did every week) he would stand up and tap his watch and then walk out.

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  12. Tony Atkins says

    December 21, 2013 at 8:25 am

    That was great ! All the comments were really good ! I wish I had written down all that I have been told over my 32 years in the pastorate . I have had ” righteous ” people in the church tell me after preaching that, ” That was a really good sermon, too bad they weren’t here to hear it ! “

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    • Thom Rainer says

      December 21, 2013 at 9:21 am

      You could write a book Tony!

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  13. James Welch says

    December 21, 2013 at 8:29 am

    While I am in the middle of studying , I cringe at this question, “Are you busy pastor?’
    Number 3, is my least favorite question to be asked. Great list!!!

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    • Thom Rainer says

      December 21, 2013 at 9:14 am

      You got it!

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    • Thom Rainer says

      December 21, 2013 at 9:17 am

      Thanks.

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    • Paula Calvert says

      December 21, 2013 at 10:56 pm

      In this day and time social media is a beast for the pastor to deal with. My husband, the church maintenance/custodial person was recently attempting to make sure he and the pastor were clear on all the extra activities scheduled for the coming week and the Pastor could not complete a thought without his phone interrupting. constantly. He finally silenced his phone so they could complete their vital conference. It seems that there were several young adults who seemed to think they had claim to his every waking minute and were angered and/insulted if he did not answer their texts, sometimes 50 a day, immediately!! That is cruel and unusual punishment for a dedicated man of God!! God bless you all for the abuses you endure!!

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    • Barbara says

      December 27, 2017 at 12:24 pm

      This is why front desk people are still important in the church office, no matter how many people are now outsourcing office work. NO ONE will get to my pastor during his study time unless it’s a true emergency…and I am the judge of what constitutes an emergency.

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  14. David Crump says

    December 21, 2013 at 8:31 am

    How about “I was here before you came and I’ll be here when your gone”.

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    • Thom Rainer says

      December 21, 2013 at 9:18 am

      Good one!

      Reply
    • Todd says

      December 25, 2013 at 11:57 am

      Upto and including the rapture?

      Reply
      • Susan McCurdy says

        January 4, 2014 at 8:23 pm

        Ha! I needed that laugh!

        Reply
  15. Lawrence W. Wilson says

    December 21, 2013 at 8:39 am

    I heard #6 in my very first phone interview with a church board–but it was a compound question. “Do you sing, and does your wife play the piano?” No, and no. It was a brief phone call!

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  16. LaQuita says

    December 21, 2013 at 8:40 am

    1. Don’t talk about sin in the pulpit let the deacons deal with that. You just preach what we want to hear.

    1. I timed you. You preached past the allotted time.

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  17. Ron says

    December 21, 2013 at 8:41 am

    Or how about this….”I think you’re overpaid. I never made what you make” (of course they compare a pastors entire salary package against just their wage) I was told this after a 78 hour week.

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    • Luke says

      December 25, 2013 at 3:34 am

      I just tell them, “Some of us have to be overpaid, or we’d starve to death.”

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      • Scott says

        December 25, 2013 at 10:22 am

        Great, Luke!

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  18. John Smith says

    December 21, 2013 at 8:54 am

    In my forty-five years as pastor I’ve heard ’em all!
    However, I tried to preach, lead, and teach in a way that my successor didn’t hear any of them.

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  19. Galen Morrison says

    December 21, 2013 at 9:12 am

    Always enjoy reading your blogs. I grew up the son of a church secretary. My mom would say there’s nothing like the entire church membership believing they are your boss.

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  20. Terry Delaney says

    December 21, 2013 at 9:15 am

    In a discussion over the plain reading of Scripture, I was told, “I don’t agree with you.” When asked why, the answer was, “Because that is not what I believe.” When pressed a bit further, these two comments came out one right after the other: “I don’t need to know what the Bible says, I am 79 years old and know all I need to know.” Followed with, “Besides more people seem to agree with me than with you.”

    By God’s grace, I have since dealt with this kind of thinking though more teaching will always be needed.

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  21. Tom Smith says

    December 21, 2013 at 9:18 am

    Now pastor I say this in love….as they shove the knife under the 4th rib.

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    • Thom Rainer says

      December 21, 2013 at 9:23 am

      “I love you pastor but . . . “

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  22. Nathan says

    December 21, 2013 at 9:25 am

    My favorite as a young clergy

    “One day you will make a great preacher”

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    • Thom Rainer says

      December 21, 2013 at 9:34 am

      Painful.

      Reply
  23. Howard Merken says

    December 21, 2013 at 9:44 am

    On door-to-door visitation: Something like “Church membership down?” I was with my pastor for that one.

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  24. Andy says

    December 21, 2013 at 9:44 am

    “Pastor, I need to talk to you after the service.” (As I’m headed to the platform)

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  25. Frank Emrich says

    December 21, 2013 at 9:54 am

    “I didn’t vote for you, so you are not my pastor”

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  26. Tracy Thomas says

    December 21, 2013 at 10:05 am

    Something I hear after someone complains: “And I am not the only one who feels this way.”

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  27. Kevin says

    December 21, 2013 at 10:10 am

    -When I listen to your sermon on podcast, I put it on 2x speed.

    -I left my previous church because _______________

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  28. Brian Goard says

    December 21, 2013 at 10:12 am

    I was recently inviting a member of the community to our church and we got in a conversation about how far I live from the church. I told him it is a 25 minute drive. He sincerely said, “Awww that’s not bad…just enough time for you to get a sermon together.”

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  29. John Brackin says

    December 21, 2013 at 10:17 am

    As an IMB missionary on home leave, I was standing at the church door shaking hands when a lady said, “Preacher, your hands are so soft you must not have ever done a day’s work in your life.”

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  30. Christopher Walls says

    December 21, 2013 at 10:21 am

    I was pastoring 3 blocks from a college campus of 5000 student, we had done a few events for the students. On three different occasions I had three different leaders in the church come up to me and say, “why do we need to reach out to them, they don’t benefit our church.” It took a while to wipe the shocked look off my face all three times.

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    • Mark Schaefer says

      December 21, 2013 at 12:01 pm

      As a campus minister, I am not surprised that you’ve heard this attitude. Disappointed, but not surprised. Because my students see me on campus all the time I don’t get the “you only work one day a week” statement from them as much. But from other lay people and clergy in our annual conference I am sometimes asked, “Would you like to get a real church someday?”

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    • Mark says

      December 21, 2013 at 1:35 pm

      That sounds pretty typical. Sad though.

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  31. Tony Higgins says

    December 21, 2013 at 10:38 am

    Once, I actually had an elder pull me aside right after preaching and ask, “Do you have to mention Jesus in every sermon? Does every sermon you preach need to be so evangelistic?”

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    • Toni Lovelady says

      January 4, 2014 at 12:51 am

      My husband received a letter after 10 months at a church that consisted of only 2 lines: We feel your ministry hereIs over.(despite all the Baptisms and new growth!) We feel you should find a church more suited to your evangelistic style of ministry. He told them thank you for the compliment!

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    • Brian Lassiter says

      January 5, 2014 at 3:34 am

      Good indication that you’re aiming straight!

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  32. John says

    December 21, 2013 at 10:38 am

    I’m an associate pastor, at the last church I was serving at I was part time(pay) full time work. when my wife and I were having our first child, I was told “we know it’s expensive raising a child so we want to help. We want you to get apart time job.”

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  33. Rusty Gunn says

    December 21, 2013 at 10:52 am

    How about this one during a discussion about how some complaints and conflict should be handled? …”that’s why we have committees and policies in place, so we don’t have to fall back on scripture.”

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    • Beth says

      December 21, 2013 at 11:12 pm

      Oh. My. Goodness. I’m shocked just hearing that. I just . . . I can’t believe they’d say that.

      Reply
    • psturg says

      December 22, 2013 at 9:05 am

      After discussing a biblical point with a member they told me, ” Get out of the Bible and get into the real world.” I was speechless.

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  34. Allen Calkins says

    December 21, 2013 at 10:59 am

    When a Pastor hears the word ‘but’ in a comment it ought to be a red flag indicating something is about to be said they likely do not need to hear or want to hear. That being said, pastors, when you hear the word ‘but’ just quit listening. You won’t miss much!

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    • Daniel Thibault says

      December 21, 2013 at 11:42 am

      Not a good attitude. Behind every complaint is a redeeming opportunity to minister to the real needs of the heart.

      Reply
      • Grant says

        December 21, 2013 at 1:18 pm

        Daniel, Yes we are always at a place where we can teach and sometimes it falls on good ground.

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    • Linda says

      December 31, 2013 at 10:52 pm

      I would say…’and there’s ALWAYS a big butt’…….

      Reply
  35. Kay says

    December 21, 2013 at 11:06 am

    We got new furniture and we were on the way to the dump with the old furniture when we thought of you! (Actually happened when my dad was a pastor!)

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  36. Becky Love says

    December 21, 2013 at 11:13 am

    “Preacher, we pray too much in worship.”

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  37. GoyGadol says

    December 21, 2013 at 11:21 am

    I like asking pastors why we follow the church of Rome and why we mix paganism and sun worship and twist scripture to justify such.

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  38. Karen says

    December 21, 2013 at 11:29 am

    My grandfather who is a retired minister goes to our current minister and asks if she wants to see some dirty pictures. She knew of his craziness so she said sure but was still a bit worried as to what she would see. Grandpa then shows her pictures of him and a few others after a caving trip. They were very dirty indeed!

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  39. Jim Duggan says

    December 21, 2013 at 11:32 am

    I know the Bible says ________, but __________.

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    • Kelly Turney says

      December 24, 2013 at 8:26 am

      I’ve heard that too…made me a little sick

      Reply
  40. Pastor Jon says

    December 21, 2013 at 11:39 am

    “I do tithe here so technically you work for me”

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    • Anonymous says

      December 21, 2013 at 10:05 pm

      Sheesh. That’s pretty rough.

      Reply
    • Diane says

      December 23, 2013 at 10:16 am

      Along the same lines, “how do you like your new ___________ that I bought?”

      Reply
  41. Pablo moreno says

    December 21, 2013 at 12:24 pm

    Haha I love number 3 just happened last sunday as I was walking up the steps to the podium. “Can I share 10 min with the group!”
    So funny. I read your book simple church it was very helpful. Do you have or recommend any books for pastors on effective time management or effective pastoral lifestyle? I read your article “pastors and time” that was helpful as well. I’m a young guy that wants to learn how to better manage my time and be more effective.maybe a like “the simple Pastor ” 🙂 hope to hear from you

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  42. Pablo moreno says

    December 21, 2013 at 12:24 pm

    Haha I love number 3 just happened last sunday as I was walking up the steps to the podium. “Can I share 10 min with the group!”
    So funny. I read your book simple church it was very helpful. Do you have or recommend any books for pastors on effective time management or effective pastoral lifestyle? I read your article “pastors and time” that was helpful as well. I’m a young guy that wants to learn how to better manage my time and be more effective.maybe a book like “the simple Pastor ” 🙂 hope to hear from you

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    • Eric Woods says

      December 21, 2013 at 1:11 pm

      Hello, 3 books that totally changed my approach to church and essentially my ecclesiology: 1. Simple Church. 2. Nine Marks of a Healthy Church by Mark Dever and 3. The Deliberate Church by Dever and Alexander. I recommend these all the time to young pastors. I think you have to slug it out in a “try and be all things to all people” church for a while to truly appreciate these reads.

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      • Carolyn West says

        December 21, 2013 at 8:23 pm

        Mark Dever is an excellent teacher. He is my son and daughters Pastor. Love him!! He assists in planting strong churches through the Word of God. Love him!!

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  43. Sarah says

    December 21, 2013 at 12:56 pm

    My dad was serving as interim pastor when out pastor of 12 yrs left to go down the road to a church with more money. I constantly heard people say to my dad before leaving to follow the preacher “its not you brother. You’re doing a great job but we just need to go where we’re getting fed” and it always irks me to hear people say it.

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  44. Sarah says

    December 21, 2013 at 12:56 pm

    My dad was serving as interim pastor when our pastor of 12 yrs left to go down the road to a church with more money. I constantly heard people say to my dad before leaving to follow the preacher “its not you brother. You’re doing a great job but we just need to go where we’re getting fed” and it always irks me to hear people say it.

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  45. Eric Woods says

    December 21, 2013 at 1:04 pm

    “Pastor we are going to start going to (unnamed mega-church) down the road, all of the rich people go there and they can do anything they want to. “. My all time favorite “ARE YOU KIDDING ME?”

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    • Emma says

      January 5, 2014 at 10:29 am

      Now, would you not say that these pastors could have benefited from a little “I love you pastor, but”… this is why your -although very charming and easily listened to- teachings don’t get along well with the Bible? 😉

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  46. Don Kephart says

    December 21, 2013 at 1:06 pm

    The notion that the pastor’s wife is available for all sorts of tasks because she is “nearby”

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  47. Mike says

    December 21, 2013 at 1:24 pm

    After talking to a man who was leaving the church, it was obvious he had been talking to others (aka. Gossiping). His reply, “That’s what church families do. We like to talk.”

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  48. Jim Singleton says

    December 21, 2013 at 1:27 pm

    In reference to # 3. “Pastor, we have enjoyed leading children’s church, but today is our last day here. God told us our time was up, and for us to move on.”

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    • Aaron Floyd says

      December 21, 2013 at 10:18 pm

      I’ve heard this in a group where nothing seemed wrong and we had just had the best experience of our new church life… knife to the heart.

      Reply
    • Jim Van Norman says

      December 23, 2013 at 7:25 am

      Heard this one when we were beginning to make plans to build – “Time to move on!” Several families moved at the same time – the same week!

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  49. Tim Smith says

    December 21, 2013 at 1:39 pm

    After serving three years in my first pastorate, I left to move closer to family. One of the men told me, ‘ah, don’t worry Pastor, Billy Graham failed in his first church, too.’ My response was ‘I can’t believe you just said that!’ // I wonder how many times through the course of our ministries we bite our tongues to keep from saying what needs / could be said. The man later spoke with me on the phone ( a couple of years later) and asked for my forgiveness for how he supported me as Pastor.

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  50. Richard Wardman says

    December 21, 2013 at 1:51 pm

    I’ve had about 8 of these, but also some that have been added in the comments. The worst things for me aren’t generally in personal conversation but the text message or email on Sunday afternoon after preaching, or the four-five page written analysis of my sermon that came the mail a couple of times. I think that what is written down eats me up more than what is said.

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    • Steve Chapman says

      December 26, 2013 at 1:32 am

      I agree brother. Let the dogs bark. We can’t muzzle them all. Just be faithful and preach the Word!

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  51. Tyler says

    December 21, 2013 at 2:15 pm

    I’ve definitely heard a few of these.

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  52. Bob Newmark says

    December 21, 2013 at 2:22 pm

    16. You are a false prophet and God is a superstition.

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  53. Sondra Brown says

    December 21, 2013 at 2:44 pm

    Following a church council meeting, “this is my church, I was here when you got here and I’ll be here when you’re gone!

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  54. Gloria Vincit says

    December 21, 2013 at 2:53 pm

    “Could you ask your (stay at home mom) wife to do it? I’m sure she has more time than I do for this project.” Wives don’t get paid but are expected to do a thousand little things!

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    • Bryan Phelps says

      December 21, 2013 at 10:57 pm

      I told them I had a confession, “I have been sleeping with the kindergarten Sunday school teacher, the preschool choir director, a Wednesday night children’s leader, and a member of the praise team…good thing she is my wife!” It would be nice for someone else to step up, or put her on the payroll.

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  55. Mitch Majeski says

    December 21, 2013 at 3:37 pm

    “You are afraid to stand up to anyone except me.”
    “I have been talking to many others who feel the same way that I do.”

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  56. ApreachasKid says

    December 21, 2013 at 3:41 pm

    It’s sad, but oh so true. These are among the most cringe worthy of things a pastor or any ministry leader can hear. So few rarely see the other side, and if they did, they’d change their tunes in a heartbeat. It amazes me that I would enter ministry after seeing how my father and others deal with what they deal with. God has a funny way of sending us where we least expect. Thanks for the reminder that it’s not always a bed of roses.

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  57. Rick Bumpus says

    December 21, 2013 at 3:52 pm

    Old one I heard from a former pastor, “We were just headed to the dump with this stuff and wondered if you would like to pick through it first.”

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    • Fran Ota says

      December 22, 2013 at 2:01 am

      My Dad was also a pastor – in their first parish they pt a dirty old wing chair in the manse – my mother took it apart, re-covered it, and turned it into a fabulous chair. The guy who put it in the manse asked for it back, to which my mother said simply “No.”

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  58. Glen Land says

    December 21, 2013 at 3:59 pm

    On the flip side, my all-time FAVORITE comment was by a man from a Catholic background as he exited the sanctuary after visiting the Wisconsin church where I then served as pastor. With a vigorous handshake he exclaimed, “Helluva sermon, Father!”

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  59. James Birmingham says

    December 21, 2013 at 4:23 pm

    I heard this from a pastor friend several years ago. “Pastor I was praying the other day and the Lord told me you would be leaving soon.”

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  60. Kristie Evans says

    December 21, 2013 at 4:31 pm

    My husband is lucky enough to be one of 7 pastors at our church and also fortunate enough that he does not have to be biovocational. “We” are over the ministry of our college kids/young adults. However, we have been asked to fill in for many local, senior pastors that are out of town or churches that need someone to fill-in while they are searching for a pastor. I, as a pastor’s wife, have been expected on many occasions to be able to play piano, lead worship music, sing, etc….Really? No one told me that these talents/qualities were prerequisites to being a preacher’s wife. Funny.

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  61. Steve Reynolds says

    December 21, 2013 at 4:32 pm

    Two I would add: “Nice sermon pastor” when either you weren’t the one preaching or it was a “brood of vipers” kind of sermon. Not all sermons are nice.

    Another one: “Wish my gossipy sister were in church today to hear that one.”

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  62. Phillip says

    December 21, 2013 at 4:42 pm

    From a search committee member to a prospective staff pastor who was in his early 40s and still single, who had included no fewer than 18 points of contact/references on his resume:
    “so, what’s wrong with you… Why aren’t you married. Are you gay or something?”

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  63. Justin says

    December 21, 2013 at 4:58 pm

    I am 35, I hear “you’re young, you’ll learn” all the time.
    I also hear #3 almost every week. That or they ask me to say something about it.

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    • TJ says

      December 21, 2013 at 6:50 pm

      Ha, I’m with you. I’m 35 too and I get so tired of people telling me how young I am. Just because they’re really, really, really old doesn’t make me young….

      The most common one I get, though, is “that was a great sermon pastor, it was only XX minutes” or on the other side, “that sermon was XX minutes, pastor. Try to do better next time.”

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  64. Mandy says

    December 21, 2013 at 5:05 pm

    At my husbands first church: “you’re going to be a good preacher one day!” Ha

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  65. Amanda says

    December 21, 2013 at 5:09 pm

    At my husbands first church: “you’re going to be a good preacher someday!” Ha

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  66. Bob Tolliver says

    December 21, 2013 at 5:13 pm

    “Pastor, every sermon you preach is better than the next.”

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  67. Justin says

    December 21, 2013 at 5:22 pm

    From a lady that couldn’t sing a note in key: “Why won’t you ever let me sing special music? People tell me all the time it’s my spiritual gift”!

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  68. Jeremy says

    December 21, 2013 at 5:25 pm

    I’ve had a few awkward ones like “I wish you would preach more often” or “when you preach, I actually get something out of it” (I’m the youth pastor). Never quite sure how to respond.

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  69. Philip says

    December 21, 2013 at 5:54 pm

    After a number of people had left our church, “Preacher, we got rid of the troublemakers. We got the old crowd back now.”

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  70. Natalie says

    December 21, 2013 at 6:01 pm

    Three time favorites: 1- Pastor, who ARE all these new people? And what are they doing here?
    2- deacon to my husband– you won’t be needing your insurance since your wife is working, will you? ( and discontinued his benefits)
    3- deacon to husband– We really don’t need any salvation messages anymore, everyone here is saved.

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  71. Jim Turnbo says

    December 21, 2013 at 6:10 pm

    After our youth minister preached one Sunday evening, a woman in the church said, “That’s the best sermon I heard in… How long have you been here, pastor?”

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  72. Michael says

    December 21, 2013 at 6:35 pm

    I got an anonymous letter once that told me to be careful who I trusted. There were some ‘friends’ that were out to get me fired.

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  73. Tim Stearman says

    December 21, 2013 at 6:56 pm

    “Pastor, I have a concern…..”

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  74. Vic says

    December 21, 2013 at 6:56 pm

    “Why should we pay that expense for you? Nobody else gets paid for that.”

    “Pastor, what do you think about X? Well, I like what (radio/tv preacher) says about it better.”

    When I had some serious health issues, “What sin is in your life to cause God to punish you this way?”

    “Well, since you’re living in our house, and we need a place for the youth group to meet…”

    “I don’t care what the bible says, I think we should….”

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  75. Tim M. says

    December 21, 2013 at 7:22 pm

    While pastoring a small country church we had an issue of gossip in the church that was destroying the body. After following Matt. 18 to deal with the sin I approached the deacons and told them what we needed to do. 6 of the 8 deacons told me, “Pastor we know that is what the word of God says, but that is not how we do things here.” I resigned the following week.

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  76. Titus Terrebonnw says

    December 21, 2013 at 7:24 pm

    My favorite is *knock knock* or *phone rings* 6 AM I’m a bivo college student who is pastoring in south Alabama. “Preacher I hope I didn’t wake you up I just wanted to ask you to go visit so and so.

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  77. Mary Ellen says

    December 21, 2013 at 7:41 pm

    I was asked to speak at a women’s retreat and after it was over, a sincere lady came up to me and said, “I’m sure glad the other speaker cancelled.” Humbling, hmmm?

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  78. John says

    December 21, 2013 at 7:51 pm

    I was a youth minister for years, my favorite?

    Are you going to be a real minister some day?

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    • Ralph Juthman says

      December 21, 2013 at 8:46 pm

      This just happened fifteen minutes ago. It is presently freezing rain. The forecast is that it will be freezing rain straight through till tomorrow ( Sunday) afternoon. Many churches have already announced they are cancelling church. I called my board members for thier input. Each one lives several miles outside of town. Each one said, past or we won’t be there, but that is why you live across the road from the church so church can still go on.”

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  79. John says

    December 21, 2013 at 7:55 pm

    As a youth minister for years, my personal favorite was a variant of”

    “Do you ever want to be a real minister?”

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  80. Reba Wagoner (Pastor's wife) says

    December 21, 2013 at 8:04 pm

    I hope you take this in the spirit it is meant. You are just too aggressive with sharing the gospel. You are offending people. (I took it in EXACTLY the spirit in which is was meant!) Mostly I get directions to give my husband.

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  81. Angel Crowell says

    December 21, 2013 at 8:14 pm

    “It’s a bonus that you’re single; we really need a pastor who’ll give us more time!”

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  82. Geoff Mitchell says

    December 21, 2013 at 8:46 pm

    I am a pastor in the Christian Church and we celebrate communion every Sunday. At my last church we were growing so fast we had to add two new services in 18 months. Attendance had almost tripled. But at the worship committee meeting it was brought up that these new services were exceeding the budget for communion. It had gone from 100 dollars a year for grape juice to 200 dollars a year! Granted we had a 750k budget- but let’s make sure we don’t waste Jesus/Wal Mart juice on all the new people.

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  83. Russ says

    December 21, 2013 at 8:51 pm

    #5 I like your preaching, pastor, but I really like ____________________________ (fill in the blank with television or podcast preacher).
    I don’t get the “BUT I REALLY LIKE _____
    It’s mostly did you watch so and so Pastor on TV this morning? (Almost every Sunday morning I get this question) then they go on to tell me how great of a sermon it was, I should watch it.

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  84. Monte Stevicks says

    December 21, 2013 at 8:52 pm

    All, I must admit I thought this list was cute and truthful.However, the further I read down the more I could read the hurt that some of you have felt and are feeling. I have been bi (sometimes tri) vocational pastor since 1996. My first pastorate was in a small church where the people loved each other and respected one another greatly. Yet even there, there were problems. Then my 2nd. pastorate is also a small church and is the church I grew up in. It was known for it feisty spirit. This spirit went back as far as I can remember. As a teenage voter in this church, the first business meeting I voted in was a split. It split again a few short years later.
    I’m telling you this because when I took the church as the pastor, I was pastor just a few months when I found a notebook in the office where a lady was tracking everything she thought I was doing wrong. I became very angry and hurt, I took the notebook home and started writing a answer every criticism. In my furious writing, I came under conviction about a commitment I made to God in those teenage years. That commitment was that I would never preach a sermon out of anger and never preach a sermon “aimed” at a particular person. I laid that notebook down and have spent the last 7 plus years preaching a lot about the love of the Brethren, the unity of the body, the proper purpose of corporate worship, and the power of the Gospel being something much deeper than a free ticket to heaven.
    I also looked over those negative remarks and realized a lot of them were personal preferences, but some I had to be honest, evaluate my own struggles, and improve upon.
    God has blessed us. The lady is still in the Church and can still be negative, The congregation as a whole seems to be truly seeking God’s will in all things we pursue.
    I believe if I would have responded differently I would have allowed that same feisty spirit to continue and the church’s reputation to continue. The reputation has changed and we are growing. As a matter of fact we are in the beginning stages of working to repair some nearly 30 year old wounds and actually possibly bringing a split back together again.

    One last thing. Each of us as preachers must remember our congregation is human, they say things they don’t mean and sometimes what they say comes out wrong. Just as our preaching does. We often don’t come across with our words as clear as we think we do. We sometimes offend people with our words too.

    Hang in there. Keep doing the work God has for you and Love the People God has given you. Thank you for your service of investing your life into the lives of others for the Gospel’s sake.

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    • Jason Ebeyer says

      December 22, 2013 at 9:11 am

      Thank you for slowing down this dump truck for a second or two. I know this thread is an opportunity to express exasperation at the foolish things people say, but the encouragement was… well… Encouraging. I am an Education and Administration Pastor and I hear these and more and it weighs on you sometimes. I hope we do lift each other up and encourage each other. My position can be better described sometimes as the “complaint department.”
      What are some other words of encouragement we can share with each other?

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      • Gretchen says

        December 22, 2013 at 11:21 pm

        As a daughter of a pastor and now a children’s minister myself, I have heard these things and more throughout my life. God calls us all to do difficult jobs sometimes, and as a pastor the difficult can outweigh the positive; however, we need to remember we have been CALLED to do this. And as Christian leaders, we need to do this whilst focusing on the positive and amazing kingdom focused work we are doing rather than the negative opinions of the minority.

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  85. Herb Dean says

    December 21, 2013 at 9:21 pm

    I was in the hospital but nobody called or came to see me. (it helps if you’d let someone know)

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  86. Joseph says

    December 21, 2013 at 9:23 pm

    You’re just in it for the money…

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  87. Whitney Clayton says

    December 21, 2013 at 9:27 pm

    Our church secretary after my first sermon, “That was pretty good. I didn’t think it would be – because of the way you talk in staff meetings and that school you went to. But it was pretty good.”

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  88. Winnie says

    December 21, 2013 at 9:33 pm

    I had a friend one time who was a pastor’s wife say that on their first day at a new church, they were at the door shaking hands as people left and a man stopped and asked if she could play the piano. When she said no, he said, “Great, we got stuck again.”

    I am a pastor’s wife, and my husband has been asked many times if his wife plays the piano (even asked by Bishops of our denomination). Surprisingly enough, I play, sing, and am a school teacher. He got 3 in one. We should get the best church in America!

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  89. Blake says

    December 21, 2013 at 9:38 pm

    I’ve heard of someone stating, “Well, it might be Bible but it ain’t Baptist!”

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  90. Robby Rikard says

    December 21, 2013 at 9:38 pm

    A mean comment prefaced by: “Are you the kind of person that is offended by criticism?”

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  91. Mike says

    December 21, 2013 at 9:47 pm

    I was told (as the 31-year-old administrative pastor) by the chairman of the deacon board that it would be better to let him roll out new procedures so I “wouldn’t come across as a teen telling the parents what to do!”

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  92. Frank M. Hernandez says

    December 21, 2013 at 10:00 pm

    As a Worship Leader: “Must be nice to just show up & sing- – – the hymns I DON’T want to hear.” as a Youth Pastor: “O, how sweet, your just the Youth Pastor.”

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  93. Jared says

    December 21, 2013 at 10:10 pm

    As someone who grew up as a PK, number 7 is entertaining…

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  94. Frances Cleveland says

    December 21, 2013 at 10:22 pm

    Here is one that the Lord has to help me on…….whenever I or my husband preach, periodically someone come up to us and say “you are always preaching on me”!!!!!!!! LOL…..we usually tell them the holy spirit knows ALL things…..God bless you. Hannah’s Sons and Daughters International Intercessory Prayer Ministry is a host of intercessors who are now praying by teleconference line on Wednesday nights for my husband and I and every 5 fold minister everywhere, be blessed.

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    • Eric Edwards says

      December 22, 2013 at 2:13 pm

      I am a layperson and have told many of my pastors something similar to this. I don’t know what is meant by your parishioners, but when I tell that to my pastor, I mean that I had to do business with God on whatever their topic was, either asking forgiveness or thanking God for the reminder before I make a mistake. I always mean it in the sense that I don’t know if anyone else will admit it, but that message was for me at least. I guess its an attempt to be an encouragement or a thank you. I never thought about it being a negative. I guess your comment was for me… 🙂

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  95. Tony says

    December 21, 2013 at 10:56 pm

    The best one I ever heard wasn’t spoken. I was the family life pastor at a church that had a pastoral change. The previous pastor was like clock work, service was done by 11:30am every Sunday. When the new pastor came he spoke a bit longer. For the first six months of him being there people would just get up and leave at 11:30 whether he was done or not. Not good for the old confidence, I grant you that!

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  96. Karla Akins says

    December 21, 2013 at 11:04 pm

    I relate to all these. My husband I are a team and they just cut us $900/month because of #’s 1, 2, 8, 11, 14. My husband handles the drama a lot better than I do, but it’s becoming clear we are sliding into bi-vocational status soon. Sometimes I wonder if it’s worth it all. I just have to keep my eyes on Jesus and realize that it is HIM they offend and walk in grace.

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  97. Johnathon Powell says

    December 21, 2013 at 11:15 pm

    “I like when we have a guest speaker, it’s nice to hear a real preacher every once and awhile”
    “You work outside the church? You must love money more than God.”
    “Oh you’re bivocational, so you’re not a real preacher then.”

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  98. D S Briggs says

    December 21, 2013 at 11:23 pm

    I have heard most of these. Some additional ones:

    -You are too young to tell us what to do. Uhm hello, you called me to pastor you and you knew my age before you called me. (1st church)
    -You’ll be a real preacher when you are pastoring 2 – 3 churches at the same time. (1st Church)
    -You are not a man that takes care of his own household because your wife makes more money than you do. Yes she did. You set my salary intentionally low. What you are mad about is I actually budget what you give me so I didn’t have to go back and work a secular job which was an issue when I could not do your relatives funeral because I had to work and you didn’t check with me when to schedule it so I could make it. (2nd Church)
    -Pastor why are all these new folks coming? This is our church. They need to find another church to go join. (3rd church)

    My all time favorite: Pastor you really show off and preach when we go out for an evening service – why don’t you do that at home? Uhm you get upset if I preach longer than 15 minutes but your announcements can take 25 minutes and you have no issue with it.

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  99. matt krachunis says

    December 22, 2013 at 12:03 am

    I know its your day off but…….

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  100. Lincoln WInter says

    December 22, 2013 at 12:09 am

    “Pastor, I’ve been a all my life, but I believe .”

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  101. Lincoln Winter says

    December 22, 2013 at 12:11 am

    “Pastor, I’ve been a *name of denomination* all my life, but I believe *something that contradicts a fundamental tenet of that denomination*.”

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  102. Michael says

    December 22, 2013 at 12:12 am

    This will be a good first church for you! (Guess they don’t plan on keeping me very long…)

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  103. Fran Ota says

    December 22, 2013 at 1:23 am

    Heard all of these, but in my last pastorate got this one: “The pastor gets too much time off and it’s just not right! In all my 35 years of working *I* never got this kind of time off!” (So in a polite and roundabout way I said “Do the math – you actually got *more* time off.” ) I got four weeks vacation, an extra week post-Christmas and post-Easter, and *if lucky* one day off per week, for a grand total of 88 days off in a year – no statutory holidays (although employment law says we do) compared to approx 120 days off for a regular 9 to 5 job. When asked why this was an issue, the answer was “because you’re our spiritual leader”. I guess that’s a second comment I hear – used as a disguise for the expectation that the minister *should* work 24/7. Another one (following continuing education course) “How was your vacation?” In fairness, most people are kind and understanding with their pastor. In the same congregation I also heard (often) “Never mind them – we’re not *all* like that!”

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  104. Corey says

    December 22, 2013 at 1:39 am

    To the others, I’d like to add “Kickoff’s at noon…”

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  105. Dennis Morrison says

    December 22, 2013 at 4:05 am

    As a seminary student with one semester left before graduation (Thank you Lord), I can identify with the comment about some people’s perception of seminary. As usual, it comes from not having ever attended a seminary. That’s not necessarily their fault. Like most of us, we perceive the world from our very limited view. More importantly, our work in ministry should reflect that which we have been taught, not what we have learned. I say this because all too often, we take a priceless gift from God, such as a seminary education for granted, as if we have somehow earned or deserved it. I have been truly blessed by the seminary education The Cumberland Presbyterian Church (the one some believe doesn’t believe in education as important) has provided me.

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  106. Jason Bennett says

    December 22, 2013 at 4:39 am

    Very early in my ministry career an elderly lady (not the sweet kind) said to me, “you haven’t suffered enough to preach.”

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  107. Lorraine says

    December 22, 2013 at 5:07 am

    As a ministry team of husband and wife, we have heard most of all of the above. I once had a senior pastor’s wife ask me (as the new Youth pastor’s wife) how did my kids feel “now that they were preacher’s kids?” My husband has also been asked not to preach about sin.
    I have been looked at askance and been asked “… and your the Pastor’s wife!!?” I agree with Karla – we must keep our eyes fixed on Jesus and on Him alone.

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  108. Ken says

    December 22, 2013 at 5:36 am

    One time during a church business meeting we were discussing buying a new heater for our church baptistery. One lady had misgivings. She said, “We don’t use the baptistery that much!” I felt like beating my head against the podium! Fortunately a godly layman spoke up and said, “Yeah, but we want that to change, don’t we?”

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  109. Benjamin Powers says

    December 22, 2013 at 6:12 am

    I always feel bad that our congregation can afford to build a brand new church building, but our pastor is bi-vocational and his dear wife works so many hours of her own. My wife and I do what we can to assist them, but we have been struggling ourselves with my recent job loss. We will probably have to move to another state to find work.

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  110. Ron says

    December 22, 2013 at 6:55 am

    From a member of Budget committee during a meeting: “The Pastor may not even want a raise because it may put him in a higher tax bracket ” No kidding!

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  111. David A Arruda says

    December 22, 2013 at 7:23 am

    Heard them all! Best one for me was the Sunday morning walking up to the platform , a lady stopped me very upset to let me know I had not call her this past week. “I asked for prayers last sunday and you never called or stopped by. But I know you went to Mrs ## house just because her son died overseas. You know she is not the only person in the church”. It was only by the grace of God I was able to preach after that. Do you know hard it is to speak after you nearly bit off you own tong? LOL

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  112. Lee says

    December 22, 2013 at 8:08 am

    17. “I don’t think we can do something like that, we have never done it before”.
    18. “I know, I’m not saying this but, I have heard others say (fill in the blank – always negitive).

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  113. Tina Havens says

    December 22, 2013 at 8:32 am

    So amazed at responses so many of you have heard! So disheartening! I have been at churches also where the congregation was divided. I remember coming home from church discussing the issues with my mother-in-law and she made the statement, “If Jesus himself came to this church, they would have something to complain about him!” I have never forgot this statement! So sad but very true! Keep preaching and don’t tickle their ears! lol And I laughed out loud and confess I have talked out ministers on tv and their sermons! Sorry! 😉

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    • David says

      December 22, 2013 at 11:29 pm

      In my first church I had a local doctor console my wife and I as we were experiencing some very trying times with the phrase, jsut remember, it was religious people that crucified Christ.

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  114. Lee says

    December 22, 2013 at 8:49 am

    This one I love to hate:
    As I was moving to the pulpit to preach, the leader of the church said:
    “I don’t like the passage you picked, change it and preach something different”
    Me: I can’t just change in 1 minute what took me 15 plus hours to do.
    Him: I can always get a new preacher, you wont get a new church if you don’t change.
    I preached what I had prepaired but had a long talk with him later…

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  115. TCoonage says

    December 22, 2013 at 10:46 am

    As a pastor with very particular eating habits who serves a church that potlucks often, I don’t find everyone’s food agreeable to my palate. With that being said, I would have to add, “Hi Pastor, did you enjoy my ______________ (insert potluck dish)?”

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  116. SS says

    December 22, 2013 at 11:23 am

    Question for all the pastor’s commenting here…what would be a Godly, appropriate way to communicate to the pastor you are leaving the church you have faithfully attended for 12 years?

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    • Monte Stevicks says

      December 22, 2013 at 9:58 pm

      If you don’t mind me asking. What is your reasoning for leaving?

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      • SS says

        December 22, 2013 at 11:27 pm

        Well…there has been a abject recycling of sermons. It started about 5 years ago… Seems totally unprepared the last 2. Lack of support for women’s ministry special events. Probably 75% of original membership has left… Many many people have spoken to him over the years I am sad. Love my ministry. My kids are now old enough to drive and are finally refusing to go there.

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        • Monte Stevicks says

          December 23, 2013 at 2:01 pm

          You have hit a serious issue.Preachers do go through times of burnout, and also go through times of just plain old laziness. I will say in defense of the pastor, that pretty much every other position in academia, they reuse material. Example, A 4th. grade teacher will keep using his/her material year after year. Even in Sunday School and Vacation Bible School, the material repeats itself every 3 to 4 years.
          That said, I understand where you are coming from. Years ago, I heard Dr. J Vernon Mcgee get after us preachers for just re-preaching the same old outlines. We are admonished to “study” and to “rightly divide the Word.” We, as pastors have a responsibility to feed the flock. We sometimes fail.
          Also, some of the remarks I have read on here about what “congregants” have said to their pastor probably have come after they have been in church for a number of years and have had to deal with a situation like you are going through. Or they’ve had pastors who want to do everything “their” way. When things don’t got their way, they suddenly got a “call” from God to move on. They leaving the church struggling and in conflict.

          I’ll pray for you. It sounds like your heart is really torn. You have a gut wrenching decision to make. It is a decision only you can make. Just remember to try to keep your motives right and know your relationship with Christ is key. That is more important than your loyalty to a church building.

          Monte Stevicks

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          • SS says

            December 23, 2013 at 6:04 pm

            Monte. Thank you for your very thoughtful answer.

        • Monte Stevicks says

          December 23, 2013 at 2:39 pm

          SS. I typed a response to this and then lost it somehow. This response will be much shorter. 🙂
          Pastors have a responsibility to “feed the flock”. I don’t have a good answer for you. I’ll pray for you, your pastor and the church in general. Tough stuff.

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          • Susan McCurdy says

            January 4, 2014 at 9:00 pm

            I would like to ask “SS” if she actually expressed her “concerns” as directly to her pastor as she has expressed them on this forum. I also would like to remind some that it was D. L. Moody who preached the same sermon several times in a row (up to 25 times, I think) and when asked “Why?” he responded “When you start doing what the sermons says, I will change it.” : ) Ha! I also would like to ask why Pastor Stevicks, feel so confident in his answer when he has not spoken with the said “offending pastor”? Proverbs tells us that “one sounds right until another shares their story”. This pastor may not have repeated any sermons. It is possible that the Holy Spirit just keeps bringing the same old thing up to the hearer and it appears the pastor is harping or repeating a message. Sometimes people hear the same stuff because they have been conditioned by rebellious fellow sheep to notice certain themes.

          • Monte Stevicks says

            January 4, 2014 at 10:51 pm

            Susan,
            You said, “I also would like to ask why Pastor Stevicks, feel so confident in his answer when he has not spoken with the said “offending pastor”?”

            I never accused the pastor of anything in either of my posts. I did however read a person asking a serious question and I tried to give them a serious answer. If you read every word of S.S. remarks, you would know that the concern was deeper than just repeating sermons. Also if you read every word of my two posts, you would read that I was lumping all of us pastors in together. We pastors have to be honest with ourselves and know that sometimes WE are part of the problem. I couldn’t accuse an “offending pastor” I don’t know the pastor. I am however A PASTOR and do know that our congregations aren’t always the only ones who mess things up.
            In my short post that you responded to, I said; ” Pastors have a responsibility to “feed the flock”. I don’t have a good answer for you. I’ll pray for you, your pastor and the church in general. Tough stuff.”
            I guess I must ask you, how am I feeling confident about the pastor being the offender in my honest, serious answer?
            Susan, if you are S.S. pastor or pastor’s wife, know that I have been praying, just like I said in my post.

            Sincerely,
            Monte Stevicks

    • Jeff Malin says

      December 24, 2013 at 8:34 am

      Talk to your pastor. Prepare your heart before hand. Go in love and season your words with grace. Ask questions about the issues you have rather than making statements based on assumptions. Pray that God will help him to handle the conversation in a godly way. Be sure to schedule a time to meet with him and not just drop in on him. Let him be prepared for what’s coming as much as possible. Lastly, be ready to lend help (and stay) if there are truly issues causing the problems and the pastor is willing to work with people and get better himself. Hope this helps! Blessings to you!

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    • Ken says

      December 27, 2013 at 5:37 pm

      The best you can ever do for a pastor is pray for him. I know that sounds trite and simplistic, but it’s true. God has ways of dealing with unworthy pastors. Maybe He’ll move your pastor elsewhere, or better yet, maybe He’ll convict your pastor to get his priorities in order. I’m not saying you shouldn’t leave the church, but make sure that’s really what God wants you to do before you do it. If you hold any offices in the church, please do the right thing and give the pastor some advance notice before you leave.

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  117. robert blackburn says

    December 22, 2013 at 12:25 pm

    I have been in the ministry close to 30 years now and have heard them all. Concerning the baptism water issue, I heard “Why is our water bill so high this month?” One man said in a meeting concerning our next year’s budget, “It is to high and don’t answer me that it takes faith.” One senior lady use to tell me how behaved her children were sitting in church why can’t other children be like mine. I could go on and on.

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  118. Drew Dabbs says

    December 22, 2013 at 4:32 pm

    Akin to #5:
    “Pastor, have you ever thought about preaching on ________?” (Usually something like “end times prophecy”) When I press deeper, it’s normally because their favorite TV preacher does.

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  119. Michael Gabbert says

    December 22, 2013 at 5:14 pm

    My people think I only work one day of the week and that I work too long on that day.

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  120. MDuVall says

    December 22, 2013 at 5:39 pm

    During the adult Sunday School class, the pastor was discussing ideas for getting more people in church. He mentioned changing the time of the service. One class member responded, “Why should we change the time for people who don’t come?”

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  121. Jason says

    December 22, 2013 at 8:55 pm

    The 4 best words every person in vocational ministry should use as a filter to most conversations is “It’s not about you.” It probably should be said often as well.

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  122. Caleb Jones says

    December 22, 2013 at 9:05 pm

    After preaching one rainy Sunday morning, wife and I stopped by the grocery store on the way home…ran into one of our S.S. Teachers (who had called at 8:30 to let me know she wouldn’t be there)…I said “missed you this morning at Service”…her reply “it’s to rainy to get out to go to church!” Another one, same lady…”well preacher, at least we know you’ll be here every service, even though we aren’t always!” Or my all time favorite…it was a Sunday night…(I was bi-vocational at the time 60+ hours plus church related hours)…no one showed up on Sunday night…(was a 30 min drive one way for us, members all lived within 5-10 miles)…we (wife and I) waited for 15 min…had a time if prayer, and left. We stopped at a KFC to grab a bite to eat, and came across 2 large families from the church…they looked at their watches and said “Preacher, what are you doing here? I replied, we waited for 15-20 min on everyone to come to church, no one showed up do we came to grab a bite to eat…oh, guess we could have come but we made plans to grab a bite to eat…sorry!

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  123. Drew says

    December 22, 2013 at 10:55 pm

    Great list. The one I have gotten as a student pastor:
    “You ever thought about being a real preacher?”
    My pastor when I was a student also got this one as he was heading to the sanctuary for service “The toilet in the women’s bathroom is clogged!” (As the older lady kindly handed him the plunger)

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  124. Marsha Rominger says

    December 22, 2013 at 11:12 pm

    Our children and their cousins were teens when my husband was ordained. We brought one girl home with us for an overnight and the next morning I was floored to hear her tell my daughter “I enjoyed being with you. You and your parents are just like normal regular people”.

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  125. Becki Thomas says

    December 23, 2013 at 1:48 pm

    I grew up in a household where my father was a full time pastor as well as a correctional officer. I’ve got to say I’ve heard a few of these but for the most part his congregations supported him in the church as well as on his other job. The last church he served was his 2nd and 5th church (remained at each for a number of years) and when he had his stroke they were some of the best most supportive people ever. He remained pastor there for a year after the stroke and continued to attend after he “retired”.

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  126. Clifford Lim says

    December 23, 2013 at 2:16 pm

    I have heard most of these in some form or other. But one that gets me when I was at one particular ethnic church, “How long is your sermon today? Please keep it short”! My wife would get the same question from these same people asking if my sermon was short. It’s real amusing the things people say

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  127. allen says

    December 23, 2013 at 2:36 pm

    I am a pastor and one thing they tell pastors not to do, is get too acquainted with your congregation. They may see your limitations and use on you subconsciously. There is a, lot of truth in that. I am very friendly and I can see how people don’t accept you as a pastor when see your week points.

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    • Jeff Malin says

      December 24, 2013 at 8:18 am

      I have to wonder how we pastors can truly shepherd people and make disciples if we don’t allow them to get close (and that means seeing our blemishes/weaknesses/sins). Believe me, I know exactly what you’re saying Allen, but the price of hiding our true selves hinders our effectiveness and to me leads to us putting on a facade which just promotes the whole “let’s put our pastor on a holy pedestal.” I just don’t see this presented in the NT as a valid approach to pastoral ministry. On the other hand pouring ourselves into people…yes. Blessings!

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    • jo says

      December 24, 2013 at 8:22 am

      While that maybe true, just curious, how are you going to know the needs of your church if you keep everyone at arms length?

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    • Ken says

      December 27, 2013 at 5:42 pm

      I’m afraid I must disagree with Allen. You have to make yourself somewhat vulnerable if you’re going to minister to people. They already know you’re human, and they’ll learn your imperfections sooner or later. How do you keep them from exploiting your weaknesses? That’s something you should leave to God.

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  128. Rhonda says

    December 23, 2013 at 5:12 pm

    I can Amen that we have heard them all and then some and then I can add a list of
    “What Not to Say to Your Pastor’s Wife!” 🙂

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    • Amy says

      December 23, 2013 at 8:04 pm

      Yes! My husband and I just went into official ministry and I’ve already seen so many of these, plus others directed just at the wives.
      All of their “suggestions” or “casual comments” are things that they want the pastor to do so they figure that its easy to go through you.
      Option 2 is that they just walk over you because you’re “just” the pastor’s wife and we don’t really do anything anyway ;P

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  129. Rev. Marcia Lee says

    December 23, 2013 at 11:24 pm

    Pastor, I’m not gossiping but I think you should know_____________________.

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    • AJ says

      January 5, 2014 at 9:56 am

      …. just for prayer!

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  130. Charlie Lyons says

    December 24, 2013 at 7:21 am

    A few weeks into my first (and only) pastorate, an older (and always impeccably dressed) lady knocked on my office door 5 minutes before the service began and said, “Pastor, you really should drink your water from a glass, not a water bottle. You want to be a classy guy. Water bottles aren’t very classy.”

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    • mariep says

      December 26, 2013 at 10:28 pm

      Or “I saw on the internet that drinking from a glass is classy. You need to drink from water bottles because you’re not supposed to be classy!”

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  131. Jeff Malin says

    December 24, 2013 at 8:08 am

    “You’re taking another vacation!? Didn’t you just get back from that missions trip with 20 teenagers a couple of weeks ago?”

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  132. Rob Armstrong says

    December 24, 2013 at 8:39 am

    Thanks for this! You forgot the one where they say “Now pastor I have a friend, but I can’t tell you who, that doesn’t like _________.”

    Merry Christmas!

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  133. Mrs. Gore says

    December 24, 2013 at 9:30 am

    A lady who left our church the same week my husband was hired heard him preach a funeral the other day and said to me, “He has really come a long way.”
    Thank…you?

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  134. Jay Gibson says

    December 24, 2013 at 9:35 am

    You could even do another “funny” (note the sarcasm) article with 10 things you should never say to a Pastor BEFORE service or right before he preaches! Great list…and a side note to this article is you can tell how long you have been in the ministry as a Pastor by the number of these you have heard. If you haven’t heard them yet, stay in the ministry….you will.

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  135. Tim Bender says

    December 24, 2013 at 11:50 am

    Years ago I visited an elderly deaf man and his wife in their home. He asked me, “Do you work?” I said, “yes, I’m pastor of deaf church.” He said, “No, no. I mean where do you really work?” I said, “That is my real job and I also teach deaf at Bible college.” He shook his head in disbelief. That visit really blew me away. Haha

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  136. Debby Johnson says

    December 24, 2013 at 4:39 pm

    Following a morning church service a visitor walked up to my dad, the senior pastor, and said in a carrying gusty voice, “That was a hell of a sermon preacher!” He was apparently unaware that his comment could be considered inappropriate. Being the accepting, loving man my father was he took it in the spirit it was intended, shook the man’s hand and said, “Thank you, brother!” It did cause us a few chuckles later though.

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    • mariep says

      December 26, 2013 at 10:24 pm

      At my former Southern Baptist church, a visitor wanted to talk to my pastor, and apparently they asked someone, “Have you seen Father Ryan?” Just this Sunday, my Presbyterian grandmother came with me to church and saw her first baptism by immersion. In the bathroom, she asked, “You were baptized as an infant. You didn’t have to go through that, did you?” I said yes, that I believe immersion of believers is the Biblical way, but I consider both to be my baptism (not the most Baptist thing to say, I know…)

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  137. Terrence says

    December 24, 2013 at 10:32 pm

    As a member of the Church and after reading some of the comments, I feel this needs to be said. The reason pastors go throw the things they do is because they put themselves and allow the people to place them in a position that’s for God only. This is why Paul warns us about becoming teachers. Being a pastor isn’t a job title but it’s a spiritual gift. A pastor should use his/her gift to edify, it’s the Holy Spirit job to minister to the people. A pastor should build up and train others how to be leaders and how to live. Paul showed the people how to live. He work with his hands and still taugh the people how they ott to live. Paul also stated that whoever desire to be a leader should follow these steps, so you want hinder the gospel. Another things is that sometimes it’s good to sit down. How can others utilize their talents if they never get the opprotunity to speak up and speak out. This is not a one man job, that’s. why it’s call a body. Pastors are trying to be to many parts of the body. Jesus and Paul trained leaders, today we hope people become leaders by words alone without hands on.

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  138. Chris Boucher says

    December 25, 2013 at 11:55 am

    Of course the problem with this list here is that most of the people who are reading this are not the ones that need to read this list.
    Guess, that’s why it is meant for a laugh.

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  139. Ben Morrow says

    December 25, 2013 at 5:18 pm

    How about this one? (It happened today.)

    “Hi Pastor! I just called to wish you Merry Christmas! By the way, while I’ve got you on the phone, I need to talk to you about putting someone on the prayer list…”

    – And on the 8th day, God created voicemail.

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  140. Mark Watt says

    December 26, 2013 at 1:45 am

    This is one that shocks me every time I hear it. “Pastor, you don’t want them to come to church. They’re not ‘church people.'” Excuse me come again? Just who are we trying to reach?

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  141. Gary says

    December 26, 2013 at 12:55 pm

    What are you doing with Heinz ketchup? You should be buying the cheap store-brand ketchup!

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  142. mark says

    December 27, 2013 at 7:34 am

    Ah, if pastors would only remember not to say such things to their youth pastors!

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  143. Harrison says

    December 28, 2013 at 6:20 pm

    And then there was this one… “We pay you to be the pastor. You need to write your sermons on your own time, at home, at night”

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  144. Lisa Wicker says

    December 29, 2013 at 6:56 am

    My father-in-law, who is a pastor, once. heard, “A preacher should be willing to live in a tent.”

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  145. Coltrane, Deirick says

    December 30, 2013 at 12:37 pm

    I Really Enjoyed All Of Da Feedback.

    Reply
  146. James Meredith says

    December 31, 2013 at 11:28 am

    One I remember especially was, “That was a good message on giving, but you wouldn’t want to talk about it too often.” I could concur if it wasn’t the only sermon I ever preached on tithing during my three-plus years there.

    I have also had several fellow ministers say, in contrast to #9, “You don’t want to spend too much time preparing for sermons. It quenches the fire.” I never figured out why studying the Word is potentially dangerous to the pastor, but preaching the Word is not.

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  147. Ruthie says

    December 31, 2013 at 3:17 pm

    I have enjoyed reading all the comments. My husband has been a pastor for 45 years. It has been a blessing…not all good but most of the time, very good. I have wanted him to write a book of excuses so that a church member could buy it and just say # 41 or #100 and not have to listen to all the excuses why people can’t come to church. My favorite one that he was told is from a man “my old hen is sitting and I have to sit home and watch her”! Usually, my husband is very kind but by the time he was at our second church, a lady he was visiting told him that she couldn’t come to church because she had to watch her husband. He said where is your husband and she said sitting down out by a tree. He said “He could be dead out there now” These all seem funny to us now but maybe it wasn’t the most thoughtful answer! Love my preacher husband. He has a tender heart and we love our church family….and they love us!

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  148. the organist says

    January 3, 2014 at 6:21 pm

    One thing I do a lot to Pastor…
    five minutes before service, “The hymns are too long. You picked them, didn’t you notice that it has eight verses? You will have to announce the changes. Here they are…….”

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  149. Jan says

    January 3, 2014 at 8:04 pm

    “I wish we had a pastor with a better car.”

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    • Ken says

      January 4, 2014 at 7:16 pm

      Boy, oh boy, would I have a retort for that one! (“So do I. When do you plan to buy him one?”)

      Reply
  150. Larry says

    January 4, 2014 at 7:01 am

    One of the worst and yet best ones I have heard was after a sermon when a member replied, “they really needed to hear that one.”

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  151. Joe says

    January 4, 2014 at 12:04 pm

    I actually heard someone say this to the assistant pastor during the invitation: “I didn’t get one thing from that message. It through one ear and out the other.”

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  152. Lennart Germundsson says

    January 4, 2014 at 5:09 pm

    Most pastors in Sweden have free mondays. When you hear somebody says: ” thank You Lord, monday at last!” It is surely a pastor.

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  153. Stephanie says

    January 4, 2014 at 9:32 pm

    My husband and I are Youth Pastors at our church. Right after we came to our current church, we were helping with a VBS. An older “saint” told me, with tears in his eyes, he wanted to see more kids and teenagers in our church. I replied that I’d love to see 100 teenagers coming to our church. He abruptly stopped me in my tracks with “Oh no! 100 is too too many. I was thinking more like 20.”

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  154. Russ says

    January 5, 2014 at 3:27 am

    When I pastored a small church in Alaska, one of our deacons would come over every Sunday afternoon and bring me a CD of his favorite preacher. He thought I would preach better by emulating the preacher on the CD.

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  155. Sandy says

    January 5, 2014 at 11:56 pm

    Let’s not forget that there are plenty of wonderful women pastors serving their congregations!

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    • Ken says

      January 6, 2014 at 4:36 am

      Let’s not forget that it still isn’t scriptural.

      Reply
  156. Mark says

    February 1, 2014 at 9:57 pm

    My dad was a pastor and I remember a layperson coming up to him after church saying, “We got new furniture and thought we would donate the old stuff to the parsonage”. To which my dad said, “If it’s not good enough for you then why would I want it.”

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  157. Avery Brow. says

    March 18, 2014 at 2:57 pm

    I am a 22 year old Pastor in Smithville, TN and have been preaching going on 4 years and pastoring for 1 year. This past Sunday morning an elderly preacher from our area came to visit, and I was glad to see him. I recognized him from the pulpit before my sermon. I preached longer than I usually do, 50 minutes. At the back door, the old preacher said, “Great message. A little long though.” I was a little surprised but didn’t know what else to do but agree with him. He said, “You want people to be honest don’t ya?”

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  158. Donna says

    April 10, 2014 at 6:58 am

    What’s up with your clothing? Why don’t you wear a suit and tie anymore?

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  159. Dominic Aquilino says

    May 1, 2014 at 9:06 am

    Last Friday I was in the bathroom when one of the deacons dropped by unannounced. I heard him yell to a construction guy working on the church building, “Where is he? We pay him enough! He should be available whenever we need him!” I guess it is my fault for not calling him ahead of time and asking if I could have a bathroom break.
    This list is hilarious as are the comments, but there is a little bit of pain in the fact that these are only funny because it really happens. All of us pastors should be praying for one another.

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  160. Jay says

    September 4, 2014 at 10:46 pm

    Going back to the top comments on the sabbath… In all my years of being a Pastor and Christian, I have never deliberately come against a Seventh Day Adventist, because the day that you chose to come together as a church really does not matter. However, many of them seem to attack Christians that worship the Lord on the First Day of the week (Sunday, Where we honour the resurrection). Please read, Romans 14 and Colossians 2:16 States: “Therefore do not let anyone judge you by what you eat or drink, or with regard to a religious festival, a New Moon celebration or a Sabbath day.” If we call ourselves Christians (Christ-Like) then let us live it out not like Moses or Elijah (Type and Shadow) but like Christ (The Reality of the fullness that has come), In love and not divisive. Stay blessed!!!

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  161. Rev. David Barnes says

    March 10, 2019 at 11:57 pm

    Many years ago after I had preached my little heart out on the glory of God and the cross in our Church (on a Sunday), an older lady came up to me and was adamant I had to go with her immediately out to the foyer. We stood their together and she said to me “Pastor David, look up at the noticeboard, what do you see”? I didn’t know what to say to her; she continued, “That notice up there on the noticeboard is too high, I can’t read it!”. I joke you not.

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